Hi to all!! As it seems, our forum family at F&F is continually growing... I wanted to start a thread to share info that is status quo for all of us watching and feeling the effects of someone we love . For starters...I went back and copied a post I wrote in Feb. 08 which has the website address to pull up a chart on the "effects of gambling on a spouse".  When things were really bad and I questioned  what was happening to me, this helped me understand alot but most of all, it validated what I was feeling and I realized I really wasnt crazy!!!!!

Copied from Feb. 2008

I hope this helps someone and hope to see what others have found and learned along the way!!!!                                  L.I.L.A.                                                               

Go to this link and look at this visual chart...I couldnt have designed it better myself to reflect what has happened (still happening) in my life

 http://www.aswexler.com/html/whatiscg.html   (you may have to look for the link on this pg..look for "spouse chart"

Hi LILA,

Thanks for sharing that with us.  I have found a chinese proverb which echoes what you are saying it is as follows:-

When someone shares something of value with you and you benefit from it.

You have a moral obligation to share it with others.

xxxxxx