only been married 13 weeks got suspicious a few weeks ago so waited for the right time to proove my suspicions. within the marriage time my partner has gambled thousands of pounds, the savings gone, the mortgage money was bouncing and when it bounced back into the bank account he gambled it, he manageto get a credit card and  loans behind my back, his lies make me feel sick. He has a thing for slot machines, online gambling and i have to pick up the pieces before we loose the house and have nothing theres kids to think of and there welfare.    

Hi Jen and welcome to Gambling Therapy, Ive moved your post to this section to be assured of a constant source of advise and support. Please feel free to make a copy and repost in "This Is Me" if you so wish.

Take Care

Harry

-- Sunday, November 16, 2008 11:00:48 PM: post edited by harry.

hi jen ,

welldone for finding us  ......

you will find that lots of the ladies willl pop along today and introduce themselves ! the wealth of knowledge and experience is incredible on here and the support is second too nun ..........

it was great getting to know you ....

big loves tj xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Good morning Jen,

I'm so sorry to hear of your predicament ,and having been married for such a short time,I really do feel for you.

Rest assured, you have come to the right place.

On here you will find ladies from all corners of the world,ladies that you will grow to love.

I have only been posting for a few weeks,and I'm already thinking of them as my "new" family!

You will have lots of support here ,no-one is judgemental,and there is nothing you can tell us that hasn't already been experienced by most of us,in one way or another.

In order to get a better "picture" of your circumstances and therefore give you more helpful advice,we need to know a liitle bit more about your situation.[only if you feel comfortable with that,please don't feel pressured]

How long did you know your Hubby before you were married?

Did you know anything about his Gambling?

You mentioned children ,how old are they?

Do you work?

Is there anyone that you have confided in or is this forum your only support at the moment?

Please try and keep your chin up,you will get more posts today I'm sure.

Just wait until the ladies have picked up the pieces of the weekend that has just passed, in their respective houses,and Im sure they will be here to support you!

So don't feel despondant.

Keep reading,when you have time.

I look forward to getting to know you a bit more .

Sparrow x 

Hi Jen and welcome! 

Like you my husband is a gambler and he loves the slots.  Thank goodness he hasn't gotten into online gambling yet, but he has spent our entire saving and one or two of our mortgage payments in the past.  I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this ugly addiction.

Has your husband admitted that he has a problem?  Have you been able to speak to him about any of this?  First things first you need to find a way to get total control of the finances before he can spend anymore money.  That may mean opening up a seperate account in just your name with the bill and household money.  Maybe you can print of the 20 questions for him to at least get him thinking that he has a problem if he doesn't already admit it.  

Jen you will get tons of support on this site and there are some very special people here who will help you through this rough time.  If you want, tell us more about yourself we are here to help you. 

hi jen welcome to the forum like the other ladies have said above please tell us more about your husband if you can.we are all in the same position as you and know exactly how you are feeling at this point.im soo pleased you found us.my advise is to read the posts they offer a wealth of knowledge and hopefully you will understand a little more of this illness we are all up against.i can honestly say its saved my sanity.you are not alone.post some more one of us will always get back to you.thinking of you hhxx

Hi Jen,

A big welcome from me too, it has been said to you already, but we do truly understand where you are at right now, and for you it must seem a very lonely place, it did for me until recently when I discovered all the love and support here on Gambling therapy.  When reading posts it is helpful to understand that CG means Compulsive Gambler and RCG means Recovering Compulsive Gambler, It took me some time to work this out.  Stories and updates on those living with CG's and RCG's are inspiring, comforting and supportive to you in your current situation.  there is a live forum tonight 'friend and family' if you log in and click on the connect button, you can join a conversation (by typing) with many of the lovely people who take the time and effort to support other here.  It is a wonderful place to be and I am sure you will find it your salvation just as I did.  My partner is still gambling and it is emotionally very difficult, if we can help you in any way at all, just post on your thread and we will get back to you.  There is so much knowledge and wisdom here, you will absorb it all and become much stronger.

With love and hugs

xxx

How are you today Jen?

Have you managed to do much reading on here?

It will help ,even if you don't have the time to post,what with ? kiddies and all the work that comes with running a home etc.

I hope you are looking after yourself.

Sparrow xx